Mirage of happiness...

Mumbai Rain

2011-06-21T07:19:00.000-07:00

Raindrops splashing on my face,

On the road and green grass,

On the roof and hill top.

Everything looks so fresh & bright,

Leaves me feel releived and light.

Sky is dark and have brightness inside,

Its all wet and beautiful around,

m walking in the rain and singing a song,

chasing splashes of the rain, m happy again :)

relaxpoo :)

U Wish & it Happens......

2008-03-01T06:21:00.000-08:00

I dunno if its my time or for the first time I have started wanting,trying,chasing my dreams n thats why looks like all my wishes are finding their own ways to fullfil. Things that I thought can never happen to me, are working out...
My approach has changed a bit, I could never ask help from others bcoz I was scared of refusal. Now, I dont want to let anything go without trying for it, I realized Its a big and positive change in me :-)I am not sure if things are working out bcoz of this change or if m in the happy phase of that cyclic process!

Anyways, I wish this continues.......

Poo...:-)

"Commitment"

2007-10-07T10:10:00.000-07:00

These days many of us are not ready for commitment....
we are scared of losing our freedom and privacy,we are scared of the intereference in our ideas,life style,thoughts,wishes etc etc......
Commitment is not just sticking to each other....Its a blend of trust,dedication,more of determination to keep it alive,desire to share your life,dreams,secrets,success and failures with your significant other half......
Its about considering the other person for all your plans and future goals...
Its about sacrificing our needs and dreams for the other (ocassionally).....
Its about more responsibilities on your shoulder....
Its about supporting,loving, valuing each other....
Its about fostering the growth of your relationship and having the strength to maintain it as and when required....

I know it's too much of work to do...
But it also gives great personal satisfaction and emotional fulfullment....If you have the right match, It brings immense happiness and pleasure to blossom your life :-)
I would want to stress on one thing...Commitment and how you feel about it, "also depends on your age group and priorities in life......"
so ask yourself if you are actually ready for commitment and then go ahead,do not rush and fall into it to regret later.

Be Happy Always.....

Poo...:-)

Stop FROWNING at others and Start SMILING:-)

2007-09-30T00:24:00.000-07:00

It was a tiring n stressful day..
I was sitting in my cab for drop from offc till home,waiting for other cab mates to come....Listening to music, relaxing, trying to forget offc n release stress by listening to my favourite songs....A gal comes n stands on the door,
Very politely,with a smile on my face I requested her,If she could come in from the other door as I am the first drop and I'll have to get down first....
Very rudely she replied in heavy voice,"why cant you let me in from this side, I m not asking you to sit in the middle anyways....".
I was strucked! and felt lil bad too the way she replied...
But I decided not to react and jus smiled n said,"no problem" and gave her the way....

I didn't react but couldn't stopped thinking bout it.....
I was trying to understand why did she reply in that tone? I was soo polite to her:-)
I felt like a puppy bit me....hehe;-)
We all would have heard the Quote "A SMILE is a curve that makes everything strainght"
but what she did actually contradicts this....
But I like smiling and strongly believe it helps in all ways...
It's positive always...
I din't want to accept that it doesn't work and I kept on justifying why did I allow her to do this to me... Finally, I managed to find a reason,I think she was more frustated in life than I was :-)May be something bad happened in offc and she was not in a good mood and this satisfies me.....
but unknowingly she spoilt my evening :-(

Think bout a situation,in which you SMILE at someone whom you see everyday but you have never spoken.You never know you made his day:-)
Who knows he was walking with lots of stress and pressure....

I seen people FROWNING and shouting at each others to prove others faulty in traffic ,
Even if they are getting late for offc they would stop by and shout n argue for some time and then go.....
In office I have seen people who are timid and who never say anything back to anybody, If they make mistake..People want to show they know better than them....
When if you are better you can be a guide for them.......(it depends..)
We can try ignoring few things provided it can be ignored.....
Wait for few seconds before reacting n See if you can Smile and be more Rational....
Think before reacting and see is it really required to shout and Frown...
n then proceed........

Nowadays, everybody is so busy in keeping their personal and professional commitments.Life is so complicated,nothing looks straight and easy here.....
So "lets stop frowning at others and start smiling", from today....
Your smile doesn't cost anythng to you but may give immense happiness and tranquility to others....
Keep smiling always:)

Poo....

"Experience"

2007-09-29T13:32:00.000-07:00

At this point I feel.....we should try to take life as it comes and keep facing the obstacles in
our way n keep gaining valuable learnings out of our struggle and bad
times...
Experience...It helps us handling ourselves in a better way even in
adverse conditions.It gives us a vision to analyse our ideas before we
actually execute them...It adds maturity to our actions and reactions in every situation,
once we gain experience we handle similar situations in a better way....

We face so many bad phases in life,some times we overcome some times we
fail.Dont feel bad if it your turn this time....dont lose hope n keep trying to overcome it...it'll get over soon,it has to! .And every single bit of it gives you a lesson...
U'll raise a lil higher from where you were....
The more u face more u learn.... and then like carbon we turn to a crafted diamond after facing ups and downs in life....and everybody around can see that radiance in u......

End of it we faile or pass we should be thankful to God that,we learnt
soo much from life and got chance to become a better person:-)

Something that I have learnt or identified the need of improvement:-)

-Do not react immediately even if you are not convinced
-Think before you shoot a word
-Learn to listen to others and respect their view aswell
-Smile makes ur presence pleasing and personality approachable
-Be Accountable for your mistakes
-Do not drag the past with you to spoil your present..forget it!
-Take precautions and stop thinking of the futuristic and nonexistant
problems it spoils your present.
-Give importance to youself
-Keep youself happy
-Keep you room ,bed,ambiance neat n soothing to your eyes,it gives peace to your mind.
-Help whenever you can.
-Find a way to communicate your views,ideas,thoughts,feelings etc..
-Identify and ask for help from the right person.
-Sincerity and hardwork can be late but pays for sure.
-Be Independent...
-You should be able to get your things done,nomatter how..coz excuses are
not entertained.
-Keep giving without expecting much.
-You can only trust your parents for anythng anytime.
-Be open to new things,ideas and thoughts.
-Dont lie to yourself.
-Its easy to be transparent n honest!
-Do not show your imotions to everybody you meet.
-Give time to youself and to your loved ones.
-Make your loved ones feel confident that they can count on you anytime.
-Less information is the cause of all confusions.
-Relevant Information at the right time can be a reason of your triumph.
-Try to find positives more than negatives.
-Identify and Improve yourself anytime u realize there is a need.
-Be receptive to the people's feedback(It has to be the rite one though;))
-Dont be scared of rejection..you would not get something only if you dont deserve it or you deserve something better:)
-Never Regret for what ever has happened.

hmmmm.....I knw one life and lotz to learn.....but we need to start some where:-)
Take care all:-)

Poo...

"Expectation"

2007-09-23T03:07:00.000-07:00

We feel sad or happy because of our expectations..but i also feel these expectations are required to some extent...lets take an example of a couple in love with each other,if they dont have expectations with each other they'll be more practical but with less intimacy between them....to some extent "Expectations" defines depth of our relationship,needs,likes,dislikes,how much you want each other..in other words it defines us...if we do not expect anything with anybody in this world and try being on our own,we can be independent this way but all alone :)
I do agree we some times do not have control on our expectations and this is when we are trapped:-)but then if we stop expecting anything from anybody..life woud be stagnant and boring...If we expect something and it doesn't happens due to some reason..it could be a reason of deep grief:-(but then it has positive n negative both sides......

Better is to keep giving more than expecting.....
and you get the return without asking :-)

Poo...

"Marriage"

2007-08-24T13:41:00.000-07:00

After seeing many positive and negative examplary of marriages, I came across few conclusions which I would like to share with you all...

I think the concept of marriage is the most important and yes most beautiful thing that can ever happen to us......
We have good friends, Family n the whole world but still we look for someone special… our sweetheart:) with whom we can share our life ,love ,feelings ,joys & sorrows ,thoughts ,emotions ,success & failures, home/room, anything and everything....
Husband and wife are compliment to each other. They are incomplete without one another...we can have a number of friends but we cannot share the same relationship with a friend through out the life....
We need somebody who can lend a ear to you when u feel sad, you could rest your head on his/her shoulder when you need to relax...you need some one who can be with you for ever....who can love you for what you are....who can respect you for what you have achieved...who can appreciate your efforts and help you over come your weaknesses....who can love you forever...

Only we can make our marriage a success… by knowing ourselves more, knowing our priorities, preferences we can have a vague idea about what we want in life...and based on this we should start hunting our soul mate...
We need to know what is that we can't compromise on...what all qualities you would like to have in your other half so that you feel proud to walk beside him/her....its true for the other person as well....
Before getting married, I think we need to find out if we would be able to respect the other person throughout life. You should be able to find more positive n good things in the prospective spouse than negatives.
Also if you find anything negative, you need to decide before hand how will it affect you...are you able to ignore his/her -ve points, considering his/her positives....

Our parent n grand parent didn't have this option to have so many preferences for their marriages and life partners, they use to do lots of compromises to live life together, it was a gamble for them...
But we are lucky to get enough exposure to the world. Being so independent and self dependent. We have all the freedom and rights to have our preferences....
If we are aware of what we are, what we want from life, how we want to live our life .We set our preferences and then hunt somebody who has lot in common to you, whose presence makes you feel special and happy...some one whom u can listen to for hours.
Whom you feel like sharing everything with....somebody who feels the same for you as you do for him/her….

When you get married there would be lots of differences but those positives will help you compromise happily for the other person....
You never know you would be looking for chances to keep him/her happy by compromising :)
You never know you meet somebody who can be you compliment and full fills your life with lots of love, care and affection.....

I think we should not get married just for the sake of getting married...
Before you plan to get marriedJ

-Know yourself more
-know you priorities and preferences
-look for someone with lots of Common interests

And then proceed further..........
If you do not find somebody for long. Do not get frustrated, somebody somewhere is surely made for you...so keep searching till you find him/her...
Do not get married to anybody till you are fully convinced and satisfied else it leads only to compromises and not to happily compromises....
So hunt and Get married with whole heart and live happily every after….

That’s all from my side....
Hope it helps :)

Poo...

My Heart is Beating......

2007-08-06T14:12:00.000-07:00

My heart is beating,keeps on repeating...I am waiting for you......haha...
Dunno but m happy....I think i have learnt how to keep myself happy.
I have got the key,I know my happiness is not dependent on anyone,I myself is responsible for being happy or sad.....As my previous blog says "Mirage of Happiness",Unless we know ourself and try being on our own and stop looking for happiness in somebody/something else Happiness will be a Mirage...and after knowing this i am happy with my work,with my hobbies,with my friends,internet,teasing my frenzs,blogging-expressing myself,with the rain in bangalore:-) etc etc....I like being with myself..so nomore Loneliness m moving towards Aloneness.....I can close my eyes n feel its raining....wow:-)I know it may sound like mad to you..but i m a bit and would still want to write what i want to....It feels soo refreshing and soothing...when you look at the green,clean and wet leafs,trees n flowers smiling and dancing happily after the rain in gentle breeze...I too can feel their happiness and thence i am happy and i keep everybody around happy:)
Keep Loving..........

That's my way...............
Poo...

"Little Angels"

2007-07-23T13:02:00.000-07:00

I spoke to a friend of mine..Father of two kidzz..whenever i
speak to him i feel kidz are his world,whatever he does,he does
it for them...I know him soo well..i knw he has lots n lots of
problems in his life more than me n many more like us...

but still he is living his life,he is happy with his kidzz,he is working hard for his kidzz..

I know there is nothng new about it,we have seen our parents
doing the same for us...I am just struck amazed on the God's lovely creation..the "LIL kidzz..Angles..." what ever you call them...

when ever i look at them i forget everythng its like a stress buster for me...looking at them,listening to them,talking to them,watching wat all they do...

they are jus lil sweetheartz! they r sooo chweeet n cute..watever they wear they look pretty
n cute..They are blessed with so much of grace,cuteness,sweetness

and innocence..unaware of the this dreadful world...

today,I was watching an old movie "Mili" (Amit & Jaya) and i
saw the kidzz dancing in the song "maine kaha phoolon se haso
to vo khil khila ke has diye.." they were dressed in white
frill frocks like Angles...it was soo relaxing and soothing
that i had to write about it!!!
They are jus sinkable!! I jus love them:-)

Poo:-)

I have RAISED a lil....

2007-07-21T17:33:00.000-07:00

Like the waves run with all the energy trying to touch the hights of the sky and then as they touch the sea shore they become still ensuring the clamness and the warmth... ..
As m growing old,I feel i am becoming more n more calm,I have achieved that stillness in me...Nothng affects me much...I've surmount the unstability that i had...
I see so many things happening around..people being ingenuine to each other out of self-interest...Some times I find myself subjected to this unjust opression....But I am able to keep myself balanced unlike many other who look for opportunity to satisfy onselves by doing the same...I think I have raised a little...and the best of it is I don't hate anybody anymore...I am able to understand the reason and the origine of everythng that happens to me so there is no point in hating the world....I know myself more now...M growing mature:-)
m just trying to move forward without any hatred,fear,guilt,insecurity in my heart!!!

Best of Luck to me:-)

Poo...

M STRONG.....

2007-07-14T05:29:00.000-07:00

I was jus thinking...I hav become so patient nowadays....Nothing affects me much....M getting stonger day by day...whatever happens, good or bad,it happns for good...n i think dats how we need to take things in life...Life....Its actually a cycle with certain phases...whenever something bad happens to us we feel why me???? but the truth is its a cycle which comes periodically in everbdy's life...it spares none of us...
Key to overcom this situation is...jus think its another phase..n it will get over..we may not know when, but it has to....no matter how bad it seems today..life does goes on...n m sure it'll be better tomorrow...n dat makes my life easy...it keeps the hope alive in me...
After knowing all this Some times my heart starts sinking...i understand everythng but still i feel all this looks good on a blog...hehe..but this is not true ...dont ever let the hope die and be happy for what you are n how you are today and thank God for everythng you have..n things will be better........................

So the idea is we can't escape the bad phases in life we can only have a positive atitude to fight and overcom those phases........

poo....
:-)

"Vishvas"

2007-04-27T14:10:00.000-07:00

bhagwan hain ye to pahle bhi vishwas tha mujhe...lekin shradha kya hoti hai nahi malum tha...har koi dukhi hai...pareshan hai...kisi na kisi wajah se...
hum zindgi bhar kisi na kisi cheez ke liye rote rahte hain...humari pyaari cheezin hum se chin jati hain...isliye...hum jo sochte hain vaisa nahi hota..isliye...ya bhot saare karan se...
sabki zindgi mai ek samte aata hai jab cheezein humare control mai nahi rahti....aur hum apne aap bhagwan ka naam lene lagte hain...aur tabhi bhagwan ke siva kisi pe bharosa nahi hota..actually,unke siva koi aur ho bhi nahi sakta..u cannot trust anybody...bhagwaan ke siva koi saath nahi rahta humesha...kabhi kabhi jab hum bhagwaan se kuch maangte hain aur vo poora nahi hota to humara vishvas kam ho jata hai unpe...aur dheere dheere hum bhagwaan se dur hote jate hain...aur ek samay aisa aata hai jab hume bhool jate hain ki hum kiske bache hain...hume khud pe itna bharosa ho jata hai ki hume ais a lagta hai ki hume zindgi bhar kisi ki zarurat nahi...
lekin mujhe lagta hai ki aise hi samay bhagwaan humse humaari koi pyaari cheez cheen lete hain...taki hum unka dhyaan karen...so that we can come close to GOD...
bhagwaan hume dukhi nahi karna chahte..lekin humara dhyaan apni taraf modne ke liye unhe kabhi kabhi aisa karna padta hai....
mujhe ab itne saalon ke baad aisa mahsus hua hai ki now m close to GOD.....
n this feeling is treasurable. for ever...Without this treasure i cannot focus on my responsibilities for a day also...I am close to GOD...I trust HIM...

Aloneness is the First Lesson of Love....

2006-12-28T04:23:00.000-08:00

I find it very soothing,hope it helps....

Without the other we don’t know who we are, we lose our identity. The other becomes a mirror and we can see our faces in it. Without the other we are suddenly thrown to ourselves. We are greatly inconvenienced because we don’t know who we are when we are alone.
With the other, things are clear, defined. We know the name, we know the form, we know the person — Hindu, Christian, Indian, American — there are some ways to define the other. How to define yourself ? Deep down there is an abyss... undefinable emptiness. You start merging into that. It creates fear. You become frightened. You want to rush towards the other. The other helps you to remain out. When there is nobody you are simply left with your emptiness.
Nobody wants to be alone. The greatest fear in the world is to be left alone. People do a thousand and one things just not to be left alone. You imitate your neighbours so you are just like them. You lose your individuality, you lose your uniqueness, you just become imitators, because otherwise, you will be left alone. You become part of a crowd, a church, an organisation. Somehow you want to merge with a crowd where you can feel at ease, so that you are not alone. To be alone is really the greatest miracle. That means now you don’t belong to any church or organisation, you don’t belong to any theology or ideology — socialist, communist, fascist, Hindu, Christian, Jain, Buddhist — you don’t belong, you simply are.
And you have learnt how to love your indefinable, ineffable reality. You have come to know how to be with yourself. Loneliness is absence of the other. Aloneness is the presence of oneself. Aloneness is very positive. It is an overflowing presence.You are so full of presence that you can fill the whole universe with your presence and there is no need for anybody. If the whole world disappears this zen master will not miss anything; he will be as happy as ever. He will love that tremendous emptiness, this pure infinity. He will not miss anything because he has arrived home. He knows that he himself is enough unto himself. This does not mean that a man who has become enlightened and has come home does not live with others. In fact, only he is capable of being with others. Because he is capable of being with himself he becomes capable of being with others. If you are not capable of being with yourself, how can you be capable of being with others? A man who loves his aloneness is capable of love, and a man who feels loneliness is incapable of love. A man who is happy with himself is full of love, flowing. He does not need anybody’s love, hence he can give. When you are in need how can you give? You are a beggar. And when you can give, much love comes towards you. It is a natural response. The first lesson of love is to learn how to be alone. Try it, to have the feel. Just sit alone sometimes. That’s what meditation is all about — just sitting alone, doing nothing. If you start feeling lonely then there is something missing in your being, then you have not been able yet to understand who you are. Then go deeper into this loneliness until you come to a layer when suddenly loneliness transforms itself into aloneness. Loneliness is the negative aspect of aloneness. If you go deeper into it one moment is bound to come when suddenly you will start feeling the positive aspect of it. Because both aspects are always together.

Osho:-)

Shairing Views

2006-12-17T06:05:00.000-08:00

Hey All,

wanted to share...
i have been staying here in whitefield with bhabhi now for more than a week..its was really nice being with her,we use to chit-chat for long...rather I should say thats the only thing we did..broadly it was bout marriages,relationships,people,society,love affairs,movies,bollywood etc etc....i beleive after a long long time i have spoken to some body with my open heart...though it was not very personal but it was soothing for me,don't know how did she feel though...i enjoied every moment of the time we spent together....and yes! wanted to mention onething more she did everything for me what she does for krishna....believe me its a very nice feeling..when somebody says "breakfast kare bina to nahi jana hai!" and when you look for your clothes and its already washed,someone insists to drink milk after having antibiotics:-) etc etc...
We deal with so many people everyday but you can be open with very few.....
It was always a level headed conversation....I am happy to share my views with her, when we rarely find people who actually understand you.... it was like a holiday at home for me...I am feeling parachute lite:-)

byeee...
poo...

Mirage of happiness...

2006-12-17T06:04:00.000-08:00

Mirage of happiness...

Mirage of happiness...

"mirage" is actually a hope that never fulfills, its been long time I have been thinking when will I be happy, when will I achieve something that will make me happy....but looks like I have been waiting for something that doesn't exists...its only we who makes ourselves feel happy or sad about anything...If we need something, we give extra importance to it and some times even more than ourselves...its a delight to have your wish fulfill but on the other hand its equally disappointing to lose something you value more than your life. Don’t know if it is right or wrong but I think if we value our self than anything else we need, it will be easier to remain happy….but then it will be more like being selfish, I cannot be selfish and happy together …..